There are these things called universal principles.
The universal principles are the fundamental energies upon which the Universe continues to exist. That means, things that are aligned and accurate in relationship to universal principles will naturally, organically build, grow, have a foundation underneath them and be things that you can live with functionally and effectively.
The idea that you must be submissive to other people’s needs in order to have love in your life or in order to have a relationship in your life, is not fundamentally true or a part of the foundation of the Universe.
It is accurate to some degree in a manipulative, fear-based, survival society, but it is not accurate in relationship to the way the entire Universe works as a whole.
Therefore, anything that is not fundamentally aligned to the Universe will continually fall apart.